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Finding time to improve your riding confidence

by | May 22, 2022 | Equestrian Coach, Rider Confidence, Rider Mindset | 0 comments

Understanding how we process sensory information can significantly influence how we experience nerves, anxiety, and fear when riding our horse. We use our ‘internal representational systems’, which refer to the primary ways we perceive and internalise our experiences through our senses, to make provide information about our experiences. Our mind filters and uses this information to make meaning of our subjective experience, as a point of reference for the future.

Our internal representational systems are visual (seeing), auditory (hearing), kinesthetic (feeling), gustatory (tasting), and olfactory (smelling). The processed information from each of these senses will impact how your unconscious mind processes your world and have an impact on how you feel about yourself, your horse and riding. 

Visual (Seeing)

If you tend to think in pictures, you might visualise potential problems while riding, like imagining a fall or picturing the horse becoming spooked. These vivid mental images can make you feel more anxious. To manage this, you can refocus your mind on visualising exactly what you actually want to happen, in as much detail as you can. Your mind really doesn’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined, and will respond to precisely what you tell it! So using this to your advantage and use your brilliant imagination to create a visualised scenario where things happen exactly as you want them to, and where you manage any surprises with ease and confidence. 

Auditory (Hearing)

If you’re sensitive to sounds, the external noise of the horse’s hooves, your horse’s breathing, or sounds from the environment will all add to how you experience riding your horse. Internal sounds, such as your self-talk are also an important factor, since we often don’t realise quite how we speak to ourselves in our mind! Listening to calming music (where it’s safe to do so, obviously!), and positively managing your self-talk before and during your ride will help boost your confidence.

Kinaesthetic (Feeling)

If you are someone who is highly attuned to your feelings and emotions, you might be acutely aware of every physical sensation in your body and how it makes you feel. You might be aware of a knot in your stomach, tightness in your throat, or a very real feeling of having your legs turn to jelly! These type of physical sensations quickly transmit an alert to your mind, triggering nerves, anxiety and even fear. Practising deep breathing or other relaxation techniques can help you manage these physical sensations and reduce your anxiety.

Gustatory (Tasting)

As riders, the sense of taste is one we don’t often think about, and it’s closely tied to memory, where certain flavours can trigger emotional responses. I know of riders who chew minty gum before they ride (never chew gum while riding, as it is a choking hazard), and that minty sensation on their tongue can anchor feelings of readiness and confidence. Being mindful of what you eat or drink before riding and choosing flavours that you find comforting or refreshing can help trigger a shift in how you feel. 

Olfactory (Smelling)

Certain smells can evoke powerful emotional responses. I don’t know about you, but I love the slightly warm, sweaty smell of horses who have just worked (that sounds weird, doesn’t it?!). As a child, I dreamed of the smell horses, of leather tack, and even now the first fly spray of the summer brings a reminiscence of happy hacking days. Find those smells which make you feel good and remind you of happy times, then make use of these whenever you can. 

Recognising which of these sensory inputs resonates with you most will provide you with simple tools to improve your riding confidence. By consciously adjusting how you seek out and use these sensory inputs, you can help yourself feel more in control and less anxious while riding. 

Preferences

While each of us might have a preference for one or more internal representational systems, such as visual, auditory, or kinesthetic, it’s important to note that we don’t exclusively use just one; our mind gathers and uses information from all of them. Think of it like having a favourite tool in a toolbox; even though you might prefer one tool, you still use the others when the situation requires it.

For instance, even if you primarily process your experience in a primarily visual way by imagining scenarios and pictures in your mind, your mind will still also pay attention to what you hear, the physical sensations you feel, the tastes and smells that surround you. Each sense provides a different piece of the puzzle, contributing to a fuller understanding and experience of your environment.

This means when you’re riding your horse and trying to manage anxiety, even though you might focus on using your preferred sensory channel, such as visualising calm and successful rides, you’ll also benefit from tuning into the sounds that calm you, the feel of the horse beneath you, and even calming scents or flavours. Using a combination of all your senses can help create a richer, more grounded experience that can be more effective in managing your nerves.

Simple Tips

Visual

Focus on shifting your mindset by vividly imagining positive outcomes. Instead of letting your mind linger on potential challenges, picture yourself riding smoothly, handling challenges with ease, and finishing your ride successfully. This practice of visualisation can help build your confidence and reassurance. 

Auditory

Integrate calming sounds into your daily routine to help soothe your nerves. This could be as simple as listening to the radio while you tack up, or repeating positive affirmations to yourself such as “I am calm and in control” or “I trust my abilities and my horse.” These auditory cues can help create a mental environment of calmness and positivity.

Kinesthetic

Use physical relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety and physical tension. Before riding, try doing some gentle stretches, deep breathing exercises, or progressive muscle relaxation—where you tense and then relax different muscle groups. This not only relaxes your body but also prepares your mind for a more comfortable and focused ride.

Gustatory

Choose flavours that evoke a sense of calm and enjoyment for you. This might mean having a peppermint or a piece of dark chocolate before you ride or sipping herbal tea like chamomile which is known for its soothing properties. These tastes can trigger positive sensory memories and help calm your nerves.

Olfactory

Introduce a comforting and familiar scent into your riding environment. This could be applying a dab of lavender oil on your wrist or adding a few drops of tea tree oil to your riding gear. The smell of chamomile can also be soothing. These scents can significantly enhance your emotional state by triggering positive associations and reducing stress, creating a more relaxing atmosphere for both you and your horse.

By actively engaging these sensory strategies, you can better manage your emotions and enhance your overall riding experience. Each tip is designed to help you focus, relax, and enjoy your time with your horse, making your rides more pleasant and successful.

 

In conclusion, understanding how your internal representational systems influence your emotions can help you manage your nerves and anxieyt around riding. By recognising your preferred internal representational systems, you can use different strategies to feel calmer and more in control, so you can become a more confident rider. 

As horse owners and riders, we have to put our horse’s management, care and welfare first. We invest huge amounts of time, energy and money into making sure that our horses have everything they need so that we can have lots of fun together, and achieve our equestrian goals. We have to balance this with family commitments, demanding jobs and often financial challenges, which means that ‘free time’ is in extremely short supply (if it ever really exists!).

Horse riders who struggle with a lack of confidence around their riding, often feel stuck between desperately wanting to become more positive and confident, but battle with a belief that they ‘don’t have time’. Unfortunately, this results in riders living with low confidence and mindset blocks, which simply reinforce this limiting belief, and the spiral continues. 

Until riders are able to find ways to work on their confidence and mindset challenges that fit with their busy lives, then nothing will change. In this article, I’ll share some simple, effective tips to help riders, just like you, to find time to work on and improve their riding confidence. This article will show you:

How much time do you need to work on your confidence?

The honest, but slightly unhelpful answer, is that it depends on your circumstances and the types of confidence challenges you’re facing. It will also depend on the techniques and strategies you use to overcome those confidence challenges; some will work more quickly than others.

However, this really is the wrong question! It’s far more important to commit to working on your confidence and mindset around riding consistently; focus on quality over quantity. To get the most out of your confidence training, do little and often. Think of it like trickle feeding for your mind!

Finding time in your week

Life can be hectic, and if we don’t plan for the important things, they won’t happen. So even if you believe that ‘you don’t have time’, the answer is that if you want to feel differently about your riding, then you need to find the time. Now, I don’t mean that you have to spend hours each week learning and doing the exercises. Instead, it’s way more effective to find time that fits into your schedule. It could be just 10 minutes per day, 30 minutes or 1 hour per week, but the most important thing is that you plan and schedule it into your diary on a regular basis. Find the slots in your week where you will focus on yourself, so that you can become the best version of you (for or your horse, if that helps!).

Stop procrastinating on your confidence issues 

Sometimes, planning things into your life and the diary is easy, but when you actually get there, you might find other things to do which are easier or more important in the moment, and it’s easy to put off working on your mindset and confidence. Yes, of course it’s important to be flexible and if something urgent and important needs to be dealt with, then you absolutely should do that… as long as you plan an alternative time that week to do the mindset and confidence work you have planned. 

If you get stuck with putting off those things that would make the biggest difference to your riding, because they feel overwhelming, difficult or hard, then I want you to remember that it’s exactly those things that you will get the biggest benefit from in the long-term. You’re procrastinating on exactly the things that will make the difference to how you feel; your mind is playing tricks on you!

So, here are my favourite ways to overcome procrastination:

  • Start small – commit to doing just 1 minute of mindful breathing, journaling, affirmations or the confidence technique you are learning.
  • Set a deadline – use your phone to set a timer for 1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes, or whatever works for you and spend that time on learning and implementing the key techniques that will help you build your riding confidence. The stop when the timer goes off.
  • Reward yourself for doing something to improve your confidence, celebrate your commitment to yourself and your horse.
  • Keep a record of what you have done, when, the positive impact it has made on how you feel and the milestones you have achieved.
  • Get accountability by telling someone about what you will do, when you will do it and report when you have done it. 

How confident do you want to be?

Think about this, if you were 100% confident as a rider, how would you feel? How would you ride? How would you think? What would you believe about yourself and your horse? Just imagine for a minute suspend any disbelief, and imagine that you could step into the future and experience yourself as a totally confident, calm, positive and resilient rider. Close your eyes and imagine what you would be doing in that moment, and enjoy it. Exactly just how confident do you want to be? 

When we let go of those stories our minds tell us, and breeze over those limiting beliefs that hold us back, even just for a minute or two, we open the door to those experiences that we really want. Our hopes, dreams and goals come back to the surface and where we can feel excited about them again. Why is this important? Well sometimes, it’s easy to get stuck in ‘I can’t, so why bother trying’ mode, which means that we stop looking for the things that we can do to change how we feel. And choosing to prioritise our mindset and confidence around riding, is 100% under our control. So, take a moment right now to step into the confident rider you really want to be, and get inspired to make the changes now that will get you there. 

Remember, regardless of what you see on Instagram or Facebook, no rider is perfect or ‘the finished article’. There is no ‘end point’ and we’re all constantly learning and developing. Yes, you can achieve your goals, and when you get there, you’ll want to build, adjust and work towards something else; it’s all part of the process. 

So, what now?

Spending just 5 minutes each and every day working on your mindset and confidence challenges, will compound over time to make the biggest impact on how you feel about riding your horse. 

The key steps to take are to learn the steps you need to take to build a positive, resilient mindset around riding and to improve your confidence, follow a proven step-by-step process which you can tailor to your specific situation and challenges, then commit to taking regular teeny, tiny steps to make the changes you need and want, so that you can get to where you want to be. For more information on how you can do exactly this, click HERE.

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